We got a call from our agency saying that we needed to delete a sentence that was in our homestudy update. Specifically, the homestudy report gave details as to how we have received pictures of our boy from our agency. Apparently, this is a big no no. Our agency (Gift of Life - Rhode Island) said that they really weren't supposed to be sending any pictures of our little guy and it could really jeopardize things.
We immediately became paranoid about how much stuff we've disclosed on our blog and thought, "It's just not worth it". I'm sure it's completely unfounded to think that the Russians are going to run a search for blogs, but you never know. We just don't want anything else to go wrong.
So there you have it . Also, Katie still doesn't want to post pictures of Zac. She wants to have it be a "fun surprise" once we have our "gotcha day". We'll see if I can change her mind.
What do you all think?
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Russia is so sticky when it comes to everything I think you were wise to go private at least for now.
As far as pictures... I'd love to see them but I understand Katie's desire to make it a surprise. Good luck trying to convince her.
WHEW--thanks--I was about in "Voice of the Voiceless" withdrawal tonight . . . (!!!)
So glad your agency was able to get the pictures of your son-to-be to you but yes, lock the blog and keep your secrets safe!!! ;-)
i am right there with you. I think i am gonna' switch to a private blog as well. You guys also seem to have a lot of visitors so you can never be too sure. It is not worth jeopardizing the adoption. We have just now returned home from our first trip and i have a total fear of something going wrong and not being able to bring our little girl home.
Good call guys, I don't know about then checking blogs, but why even risk it! So not worth it.
When we were there for trip 1, we were told not to disclose to the Baby Home that we had received two pictures, so yeah, I don't know what that's about.
Thanks for the invite, I will continue to pray for a speedy court date!
Monica
You can't be too cautious! Thanks for inviting me, I love being in the know!
Hey guys, I got in and registered and everything so I guess we are back in the loop. You did the right thing in going private....I would be paranoid too. Also, Katie I'm backing you up on the photo thing, you can't be too careful and he will be here so soon. Just not worth the risk. Thanks for keeping up with it and we can't wait to hear when you hear something!
Love, Jenni
I started to get paranoid about our blog after Trip #1. Our agency sent out a newsletter that said you shouldn't put any identifying information on the blog like city, or even the region (of course that also means name & pictures, etc). (I removed the info after we got back from Trip #1) I understand it's a privacy thing with regards to sending pics but the agencies get them to help us... Russia is acting as the children's guardian until they find parents so I understand why we can't show pics / acknowledge that we have them.
I also heard that in my region that someone there (MOE? Agency reps?) checks the Yahoo message board for our region. There is a story that someone who was posting on the board was warned not to say too much about the process and people involved (coordinator, translator, etc) when they got over there. Since then I have stopped posting on any Yahoo board even after the adoption.
ps. RE posting pics. Before Trip #1 I only sent pics to my adoption friends and very close family because I knew there was a chance that M wouldn't work out for us... and those were the people who understood the process & risks.
After Trip #1 I opened the circle a little bit but was nervous that something might go wrong... and then other people were "emotionally" invested. Lucky for us everthing went fine.
It seems the closer you get the more paranoid you get, but quite frankly that's not a bad thing.
This whole process has so many bizarre turns that it is always a good idea to remain conservative and private about things until the adoption is complete.
The blogs certainly help people to keep up with the journey and often provide support but the reality is that crazy things happen (as you guys already know--stupid database errors, etc.) so why take additional risks.
I completely understand your concern. You're so close, you definitely don't want to do ANYthing that might keep you away from your child any longer. I'd love to see pictures of Zac but also understand the element of suprise Katie wants to wait for :) You are so fortunate to have been able to receive so many pictures during your time apart. What a blessing!
Thank you for allowing us to continue on your journey with you. We can't wait to "meet" Zac!
Thanks for including me! I was immediately worried that something had gone wrong when I saw you'd gone private. I'm releived on your behalf, and looking forward to both pictures and the happy ending!
I think it was wise not to risk jeapordizing anything. It's not worth it. When we travelled on trip #2, I started a second (private) blog where I shared more details and still kept everything more anonymous in the main blog until everything was final, so there are several ways you can go about still sharing your story.
Whew, now I'm back in the loop. Thanks for the add! ;) I love catching up with your journey and totally understand the privacy issue. Paranoia isn't such a bad thing! Can't wait to get together with all of you.
Smiles,
Lisa
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