Our kids are getting along amazingly well these past 2 days. I'm very proud of all 3 of them for how they've behaved.We've continued to have a few temper tantrums from our little Zac, but we've employed what we believe to be a good working strategy. We've now developed what I would call a hybrid time-in and they seem to be going well.
The ignoring thing didn't seem very effective. This resulted in unresolved conflict which led to bigger and more frequent tantrums. At one point, we even attempted to give him a time-out" by himself in his room. Within about 3 seconds of shutting his door, we realized that this was absolutely NOT the right thing to do. We don't want give him any illusion that we're "leaving" him at anytime.
Therefore, we've settled on time-ins.
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oh my gosh, those pictures are adorable!!!!! i showed them to my aunt and she said she doesn't think that it could get any cuter than that!
i love it!
This has NOTHING to do with the kids, but oh, how proud their great grandparents would have been to see the John Deere equipment pass to a new generation. They went through all sorts of strange things to get this stuff.
I hope your little ones enjoy them forever...and maybe even pass them on again.
zac must have an appropriate sense of modesty--that cup is well placed in the bath picture!
Getting the right discipline plan together is hard. I pleased to report that Rita is now following our "time in" technique pretty well. She sits on the step; and waits for her timer to go off. Thinking about it... she's so good at it that she gives herself her 1s, 2s and 3s.
Way to go--and I would say you are right--we didn't have good success with "time-outs"--staying in eye-sight of our daughter worked better!
"Time-in's work really well for tantrums in public too. . . . We "double-teamed" to shop for the first while so that when new Dd (age 5.5 at the time) would pitch a fit she could get a "free ride" to the vehicle where she was sat down in her seat and ignored basically by the parent. We were there with her in her sight, but she didn't get all kinds of attention. The other kids and other parent would continue shopping. . . it was amazing that it only took about 3 times of that and she started to realize that her behavior had to be reasonable in a store if she wished to stay in there (which she certainly DID!). We enjoy shopping with her now. ;-) Obviously, there is a big diff between 2 and 5, but I wouldn't hesitate to use the same method on my bio child who is almost 3 (next week! Where has time gone?!) if I needed to.
It's so sweet to see all your children finally together, and I bet your hearts are bursting with pride and joy!!!
Is that the same John Deere tractor that we used to play with in 'the circle'?
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